my teacher sent a student home today because the student had had an anxiety attack earlier in the morning and she said “if you have a broken bone, you don’t just keep walking on it and damaging it more, you treat it. Your mental health is the same. Health then school.”
I was about to get really angry but it took a different turn than I expected
The Black community is ass backwards to me concerning marriage, you mean to tell me that if you two grown ass consenting adults who have discussed marriage and the woman asked the man it’s wrong? Weeding through, the sexist, and patriarchal notions for a second, we want to see Black love (tm) but…
My take on it is based on a stereotypical one… But women usually want a relationship/marriage more than and sooner than a man.
At the end of the day, If a man really wanted to marry you.. He’d ask.
If you have to ask, he’s most likely not ready or just doesn’t wanna marry you.
That’s bullshit and puts way too much onus on the direction of the relationship on the man, which is inherently patriarchal. Why can’t a woman love her man enough to know when she wants to get married while taking his feelings into consideration. Like trust when a woman put herself out there it’s not a decision made lightly and nor should it be. If you are in a committed relationship and believe in marriage, you’ve discussed it, it’s not an issue, because it’s out there. You wanna be with someone you go for it, if he says yes to the proposal is he then lying? Like come on.
People say yes to proposals and don’t actually wanna get married every day b.
I mean you can feel how you want, but if a man wants to be married to you, he will ask you to marry him.
Especially a black man… Who statically already don’t wanna her married… Let alone to a black woman.
So why even say yes, like beyond the pressure if this man didn’t want to get married, why even agree? And yes marriage is inherently patriarchal, but looking outside of that in breadth, fuck on some really simple shit, if you with a person why not ask, why shame a person for being in love enough with their partner to want to commit to them for life? Why try to strip away masculinity because it doesn’t fit into the constraints of what you thought? Ultimately the people usually go on to have a somewhat traditional life, the beginning is just that a beginning.
it don’t have anything to do with stripping masculinity lmao you doing the most.
If you have to ask a man to marry you… He most likely isn’t ready or doesn’t want to marry you.
Very simple concept.
And EYE I say that’s a bunch of bullshit because asking a person to marry you isn’t on some whim shit, it’s discussed. It’s a really fucked up narrative.
Isn’t on some whim shit? Have you seen the divorce/annulment/multiple marriage rates nowadays?
That’s besides the point.. But you’re statement is documented BULLSHIT lmaoo
It’s not documented bullshit because we don’t know all couples, and how they work. My intial point was how fucked up views on marriage and male/female relationships in the Black community skew perspective when it comes to proposals. You put out a stereotypical view and expected it to be welcomed as fact when it’s not. Like that was the point how Black love us viewed in a narrow paradigm and how it affects action in regard to proposals. Simple.
Yeeeea if he wanted to marry you he would ask you.
be a pal and like people’s text posts. reblog their selfies. respond to their questions. even if you don’t know the answer and even if you’ve never really talked to them before. there’s nothing worse that feeling alone on a website where everyone promotes love and friendship.
if i as a retail worker have to work with a dozen cameras pointed at me to deter me from stealing $10, cops should have to work with a camera pointed at them to deter them from arbitrarily maiming and killing people